I’m a feminist with strong self-esteem — so why do I care so much about looking old and fat?

It’s hard to see myself free of society’s fractured mirror (photo by Joeyy Lee on Unsplash)

Earlier today, a man on the street thought I was my daughter’s grandmother.

First of all, a quick PSA to dudes on streets everywhere (as well as indoor dudes, and really, all dudes, and you know what, it’s not about gender, I’m addressing everyone, here): Never, ever call someone a “grandma” unless you’re…